Open?

For a long time now I have been a big fan of Things I can’t tell Boyfriend 1 for his dry wit and great storytelling abilities. Recently he made a post about the endless battle between monogamy and the desire to do everything possible.

I have battled this demon and wanted to put my two cents in. A number of years ago I fell head over heels in love with this guy who was ten years older than me. I was enraptured by him in what was my first true love. He however, had been in many relationships and was quite clear about not wanting to be exclusive.



And I accepted that. I didn’t want to share, but I didn’t want to lose him over it, so I took it. As the relationship progressed, I didn’t have as much a problem with it. I was able to enjoy a single’s sex life while having the security of the boyfriend. It was blissful.

I met Bud, the hubbie, while in this relationship, and it was the permissiveness that enabled it. I had the opportunity because of the open relationship to explore something that became very emotional. Why the rules were to only have the physical, the emotional was a risk involved.

And with Bud, I didn’t want to go down that road again. And so we have been monogamous. Or I should say that I have been. If anything that “Things I can’t tell Boyfriend 1” has reminded me, there is no way to know what your partner is up to. But it has been through this decision to be exclusive that I have discovered that there are lots of joys involved in being exclusive. I miss the hunt, but I have discovered that this is not the most important element.

Just my thoughts.

As a substitute, I have pics instead of bodies. :)